Why I Waited Until My 30s To Get Married
posted on July 22, 2018 | by Chelsea Becker
When I think back to getting married earlier this year and all the decisions that came with planning a wedding, it wasn’t the venue or the dress or really any of the details. It was the fact that I waited until I was in my thirties (well and picking the right partner, of course). Here’s why!
It was less stressful
One of the best things about turning 30, at least for me, has been the sense of confidence. I’ve learned what I like, what I don’t, what’s important to me, and how to make a decision. I also learned not to sweat the small things, which was a major lesson of my twenties. So when it came down to the million decisions that come with a wedding, I felt on top of it.
My group of friends was smaller
In college and after, I was the girl with a million friends. I don’t mean that in a bragging way – I mean that, unlike most humans, I never said no to invites and wore myself down trying to keep up with everyone. I’m just very social that way! Or was. Obviously over the years, people kind of drift off and the partying days of college fade. With that comes seeing people less often and a smaller, closer knit group of friends. This obviously made the guest list a lot easier – and I know I’ll be friends with everyone at my wedding for life.
We got to live together
This is up to debate for each couple, which is cool, but I always knew I wanted to live with someone before getting married. I also wanted plenty of time to live with friends and feel 100% ready to move on from that life before shacking up. And I got to do both by waiting to move in together – and then get married – until I was ready to graduate from living with my girls.
We knew who we were – and who each other were
We all know that your 20s are about growing, experimenting, and evolving – and I definitely did all of that. I’m very different than I was at age 25 or even 28, and my husband is too. Maybe some people don’t change as much as we did, but I loved feeling secure in ourselves AND the relationship. I knew myself and who I wanted to be. He knew himself and who he wanted to be. And we both knew each other really, really well.
I followed my gut
Even with society (and my mom’s) pressure, I stuck with my gut on getting married in my 30s. It was crazy hard at times, and I definitely questioned if I should settle earlier in my 20s, but I’m so thankful that I waited until I felt ready – no matter the year on my birth certificate. Age is literally a number, and in my opinion, not something to base your life off of. You gotta do you!
Did you consciously wait to get married until your 30s? What did you like about it if so?
I loved reading this! My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now, but I’m still in my early twenties. It’s so refreshing to read that there’s nothing wrong with waiting a while to get married. It helps me to feel as though I don’t need to put so much pressure on our relationship and getting married later on could actually be a good thing 🙂
My husband and I got married at 20 and 22 and we don’t regret it all. We’ve been married over a decade, have two amazing kiddos, and we’re crazier than ever about each other. When you know, you know. Plus we had and still have the same convictions and beliefs and wouldn’t settle for anything less than that in a relationship. That’s what makes us so compatible.