Wedding

5 Tips For Dealing With the Emotional Crash After Your Wedding

posted on November 26, 2019 | by Caitlyn Campbell

I got married back in September, and I couldn’t wait for it to happen. My husband and I had planned a beautiful ceremony and reception, and we started planning everything the year before. There were months where we didn’t work at all on the wedding, and other months where that was all that we did. But for an entire year there was this excitement and lead up to what was the best day of my life. On the actual day of the wedding, I was so excited, and happy. I mean this is what so many of us have been thinking about since we were little kids – our wedding day. And then there it was. It was happening, and it was wonderful. But then, the next day we woke up in our apartment the same as always, and while I woke up with a husband, there was this emotional crash that started to happen, and I know that I’m not the only one who’s gone through it.

THE LOW AFTER THE HIGH

Getting married is almost indescribable. You ride this emotional high all through the planning, and the different parties, and the well wishes, and then, of course, the day of. Everyone is there for you, you’re the center of attention. You’ve also put the majority of your spare time into planning what can be a huge event. It’s not surprising then that after it’s over you can experience this emotional crash. You now have all of your spare time back, you’re not working with your partner on a project, and you (usually) don’t have a huge event to look forward to that you can get excited about. All of this can leave you low, but once you’re aware that this can happen/is happening, you can take steps to alleviate it.

NEW PARTNER ACTIVITIES

The first thing I noticed once the wedding was over was that my husband and I didn’t have something that we did together anymore. When we were planning the wedding we were a team, working together to figure out what we had to do, and I wanted to get that teamwork feeling back. The easiest way to do that is to pick an activity that you both want to do – working out at the gym, playing a team sport, taking a class like cooking – and do it together. Doing this allows you to spend time with your partner, work as a team, learn a new skill, and have some fun.

NEW PROJECTS FOR YOU

Planning a wedding is hard, and it takes a lot of time, so when it’s over you can have a lot of spare time on your hands. This feeling of having all of this extra time can leave you at loose ends and help lead you into an emotional low. To avoid this, now is a great time to start on a new project that you’ve been meaning to do. Have you been meaning to upgrade your website? Renovate your bathroom? Write a book? There’s definitely something on your bucket list that you’ve been meaning to get to, and now is when you should start.

PLAN A TRIP

It’s always good to have something new to plan, and something new to look forward to, and I find the easiest way to do that is to plan a trip. My husband and I aren’t taking our honeymoon until June 2020. We’re planning on going to England and Scotland. We’re just at the very beginning of our planning, but it’s so much fun to think about what we want to do, and what we want to see while we’re there. It’s giving us something to look forward to and allowing us to spend more time together.

TALK TO SOMEONE

If you’re still feeling the low six months after your wedding, or after you feel like you’ve exhausted all of your other options, then it might be a good idea to go and talk to someone professionally. An emotional low that lasts for a long period of time can lead to depression, and it’s best to get medical help and advice before it gets that far.

Having an emotional crash after your wedding is very common, and it’s nothing to be ashamed about. The key thing is to realize it’s happening and create a plan to combat it so that you can make sure the happiest day of your life isn’t followed by the lowest.

Have you dealt with the emotional come-down after your wedding? Or any big event?